friendship with oneself is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.- eleanor roosevelt
 
　　we often focus on building relationships with others that we forget the essential first step: being friends of ourselves. that is the crucial first step if we are to have good relationships with others. how can we have good relationships with others if we don't even have good relationship with ourselves?
 
　　the problem might be worse than we expect. maybe we don't like ourselves without realizing it. here is a simple checklist; is there anything you don't like about yourself from these list?
 
　　your past
 
　　maybe you have made mistakes in the past which you feel bad about. you might be disappointed with yourself on why you could make such mistakes. even if that happened in distant past, your subconscious mind still has a reason not to like yourself.
 
　　your background
 
　　you might wish that you were born in different family, or that you have different background. maybe you could not accept the fact that you are not as lucky as others, who seem to get whatever they want effortlessly because of their background.
 
　　your personality traits
 
　　you might have some personality traits that you don't like. for example, you may be an introvert and you don't like it; you wish you are an extrovert.
 
　　your achievements relative to others others might have better achievements than you, and no matter how hard you tried, it might seem impossible for you to match them. you might then think that it's because you are not smart enough or don't have enough talents. is there anything that resonate with you? all these give reasons to you not to like yourself. that in turn makes it difficult for you to be a good friend to yourself.
 
　　fortunately, there are always things you can do to fix the situation. here are some tips:
 
　　1. forgive yourself
 
　　you may have made those mistakes in the past, but is there anything you can do about them? i don't think so, except learning from them. it's true that you are not perfect, but neither is everybody else. it’s normal to make mistakes, so do yourself a favor by giving yourself forgiveness.
 
　　2. accept things you can't change
 

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